Sexophobia or psychological dyspareunia; Many women are suffering from “psychological dyspareunia” or sexophobia. Indeed, this condition is fear of penetration that prevents breaking the hymen, which can lead to what is called a “null marriage.”
This fear can be accompanied by a kind of unintentional contraction in the pelvic muscles, that is, unintentional pelvic spasms, preventing any attempt to penetrate the vagina.
Be assured: in general, the female genitals are physically normal, except that the muscle spasm that hinders any connection can be a source of pain from slight discomfort to burning sensation or severd ripping.
In addition, even if the female examination looked as the hard option, it is what we recommend you do to ensure absence of any physical cause of your problem.
Causes of sexophobia ” psychological dyspareunia “
Fear of penetration is normally due to ignorance of how the genitals are formed and lack of sexual education. In fact, the vagina has no place in your imagination of your body; therefore, you imagine that the penis cannot go through unless as a dagger cutting through the wound. Realistically, every penetration provides pleasure if the woman was able to control her pelvic muscles and play with them to obtain pleasure.
The vagina is an organ of about 8 cm in length and has very flexible sides; this flexibility allows it to contain the male organ regardless of its size, as the male organ whether big or small does not represent a problem to the woman’s vagina if she can learn to self-explore.
On the other hand, the cause may be any previous experience of incest or an adult assault during childhood or any experience that can form a shock; even if you do not remember any of this, in this case consulting a psychological therapist is essential for treatment.
Solutions of sexophobia ” psychological dyspareunia “
My advice is to consult at first with a gynecologist so that they put down a diagnosis. Then seek a sexologist that will propose a plan allowing you to explore your body and its functions. You will be able to gradually and gently get to know your vagina, and you will begin to embrace it mentally and then physically.
If you are hesitant about seeking a specialist, it is important to regain an atmosphere of comfort and safety with your husband though replacing failed attempts of intercourse by sessions that are focused on massage and gentle foreplay that are not intercourse oriented. Afterwards, follow the steps below:
1- If it is only about self-ignorance, you can then gradually tame your fears through learning how to get to know each other better every day.
This is why it is essential to prolong the preliminaries, by dedicating time for self-exploration and exploration of the other in an atmosphere of pleasure; it is the time that leads to penetration. So despite all this the vaginal discharges remain insufficient to facilitate pain-free, easy entrance (penetration), it is important then to use a lubricant made of water and is quick to melt. Your position will also make is easy for you to control your defensive reactions like unintentional contraction of the perineum; correct position will also provide the perfect timing for your pelvic muscles to be flexible.
In case you are suffering from sexophobia that is accompanied by vaginal spasm (uncontrolled contraction of pelvic muscles), then you need to consult a specialist.
Sexual education of sexophobia ” psychological dyspareunia “
Get to know your vagina.
The vagina is an extremely flexible opening that is external in its first third, and it does not function except when there is something inside it such as the penis.
It is an organ that has small nerves and hence small pain. Strong muscles surround the vagina and these cause pain when they contract during penetration.
Throughout the arousal stage, the vagina stretches to contain the male organ.
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